If someone tells you that your green hair looks terrible, you may shrug your shoulders and say that YOU don’t have green hair, you must be blind and they must be blind. But if the same one is saying that your smile looks fake-this is another matter. A slight odour of anger might come up after all who is he, to say such a thing?
Lies are lies and usually don’t make any difference to any of us unless they impact on our livelihood or respectability. The opposite is the case with truth. Truth hurts and makes us angry. Who wants to see or admit that our behavior is pretentious, the heart full of fear and the mind dumb?
However, anger can be a tool for change when we feel the full force of it and accept it as a gift to see where our physical and emotional wounds lie. Look at small children and how beautiful their anger is; we don’t judge or condemn them because a minute later they are full of love and joy.
The same can also happen with us if we turn the torch of awareness from the person who has offended us back to ourselves where the problem lies. Not only will we be more authentic with all our other feelings but more importantly we can see the power in anger and the lesson to be learned.
Any lover of truth will include his or her anger on the journey, accepting and even welcoming it as another chance of finding out about one’s deeper reality. In all relationships, whether in love partnerships or otherwise, anger is always present where there are illusions, expectations and dreams.
The thing is do we need to be more aware of the part we play in these relationships and do we need to be more aware of what hurts us and why?
Sam